Healing the wounds that force us to wear masks
Inner wounds happen from life situations that injure us. You will not see any skin abrasions or broken bones from inner wounds, but that does not mean they hurt any less. Interestingly, our outer, visible wounds tend to heal much quicker than our inner, invisible wounds. Why? Because we treat our visible wounds. Most inner wounds are left untreated, and worse yes, we throw salt in them.
Most people understand the general concept of trauma but do not necessarily know the scope of it or the depths and impact it has on a person’s psyche, in particular with emotional trauma.
Emotional trauma is a form of abuse that is often dismissed by friends, family and sometimes even healers, therapists and psychologists (shocking I know). It can even be disregarded by the victim themselves.
Emotional trauma is created when your emotional needs are neglected. It can be caused when your emotions are dismissed, and your feelings completely disregarded and disqualified. Whatever you feel is basically treated as not important by those closest to you, not acknowledged, belittled, made to be shameful or wrong as well as said to be exaggerated.
Because of the nature of this type of abuse being more subjective since it is your words and emotions against theirs – emotional abuse is something that can go on and on undetected, and yet it has one of the most profound negative effects on the victim’s psyche for years after.
These deep wounds, that most people are not able to heal, that are also embedded in physical trauma, are always emotional hurt, pain and invalidation.
Beneath the beating is humiliation and powerlessness.
Under neglect is worthlessness and the pain of not being seen.
Buried in sexual abuse is shame.
Thrown into verbal insults is the wound of not being good enough.
Mix in some mind games of denial by the abuser and you become the paranoid crazy one.
As you heal from emotional abuse, you will experience what I call emotional freedom – -the freedom to be yourself and the ability to manage your own feelings rather than letting your feelings control you.
Let us take a closer look at some of the components of emotional freedom.
- You stop absorbing other people’s feelings and have your own. You experience your feelings as separate from other people’s, so even if they are upset, you do not have to be. As a result, your feelings start to make sense and be helpful.
- You have a whole range of feelings – not just two or three. You are no longer avoiding your feelings or afraid of them. You are not relying on food, alcohol, drugs, overworking, and other distractions to numb your feelings. You allow yourself to feel them, you invite them in rather than pushing them away.
- Guilt and shame do not dominate your emotions. Because you are rebuilding your self-esteem, you are no longer willing to accept the blame for everything that goes wrong. You take responsibility for your actions, but you are not going to be a scapegoat. And you are breaking down shame by sharing your story with trustworthy people.
- You are no longer tethered to someone else’s feelings. Your feelings and life are your own. And you do not need others to approve of or understand your choices.
- You respond rather than react. In the past, your feelings felt out of control and you reacted to every little annoyance or criticism, but now you know how to tolerate and process your emotions so they can help you rather than get in your way.
Signs of an inner wound
Wounds that force us to wear masks
Physical and emotional bodies
Similarities between physical and emotional wounds
What are typical emotional wounds?
Emotional trauma responses
Healing is a choice
Signs you are suffering from emotional wounds
Signs you have been emotionally traumatized
You are a people pleaser
You constantly doubt yourself
You are highly triggered
What is your core pain?
Understanding your core pain
The separation trauma
Negative core belief
Core pain distractors
Why your emotional wounds strengthen you?
Concealing the pain
A return to love
Heal the Mother wound
What exactly is the Mother wound?
The Mother wound can manifest as …
Learn to separate expectations from reality
Notice the good things
Quit holding out for an apology
Let it out
Learn to forgive and love yourself
Why we do not always feel our feelings
The process of healing emotional wounds
Resistance towards healing
The fear of suffering even more
Secondary benefit of suffering
Guilt and punishment
Find a time to meet in person
Establish ground rules
Express yourself with love
Listen to each other
Agree to move on
Stay in touch
Wounds from the past
Lack of affection
Leave the past behind
Unpack your backpack
Let go of everything that drags you down
The wound of rejection
Origins of rejection
Healing the wound of rejection
We all deserve forgiveness
Beautiful and selfless gift
Release stuck emotions
We all hide our emotions occasionally
Steps to processing stuck emotional energy
Let go of people who hurt you
Words can be damaging
Letting go of feeling unworthy
Acknowledge the emotion you feel
Have a plan
Your talents and strengths
Audio: Cleanse self-doubt and fear
Aromatherapy for healing emotional wounds
Bathing as a healing ritual
Full moon bath
New moon bath
Selection of scents
After-effects of a healing bath
Setting boundaries after emotional abuse
Re-examine your values
Simply saying no
Look after your needs
You are not responsible for other people’s emotions
Warning signs you are in an abusive relationship
Warning signs of a toxic relationship
What psychological abuse can look like
Why did I not realize my relationship was emotionally abusive?
Our wounds inhibit us
Making the pain our own
Find the wound
Honor the wound
Cleanse the wound
Close the wound
Stages of emotional healing
Reclaiming your power
Are we overlooking abuse?
Understanding emotional abuse
A time to heal
Emotional cleansing ritual
Audio: Emotional cleansing
Using crystals to heal emotions
Emotional release exercise
Audio: Clear and cleanse the mind
Loving again after emotional abuse
What drew you to an emotionally abusive partner?
Stop berating yourself
A list of things you will not tolerate in future
Get in touch with your own needs
Trust your gut
Audio: Find comfort, rest, restoration, love and trust
Rebuilding after a narcissistic relationship
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The three helix of universal love, wisdom and creative power of the Anthakarana-autmun
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helps in releasing emotional pain and forgiveness initiator.
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Higher Soul Fire carries the vibration of universal love
It may assist you to let go of issues you have been holding onto and forgive both yourself and the other person
Higher Soul Fire peace of mind and freedom from fear
Neutralizes anti-social and confrontational attitudes
Dispel negative attachments and entities Repair holes in etheric body
Balances astral body
Improves chakra and meridian functions
Links conscious mind to higher self
Assist higher self in working through physical form
Free on from limiting behavioral programming of one’s upbringing and release past life family patters
These energies radiate a very high vibration
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Are powerful energy to heighten metaphysical abilities
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Lotus Healer emits a profound healing vibration and facilitates the energetic activation of cellular regeneration. Renders assistance to disorders in all areas of the body, the emotional system, and mental structure. It is said to assist in opening the heart chakra.
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Supports the nervous system
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Addresses common premenstrual and menstrual tears and moodiness
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